Let me remind you that your effort and commitment to yourself plays an important role in overcoming divorce. You will not see major results if you are just waiting for a miracle to happen, it will not happen! No one’s coming to save you or rescue you, life won’t just heal you, time won’t either. The only way out of despair is to work on yourself, step by step.
A way out of a situation is always to look for a solution, to look for a way out, in this case, overcoming divorce requires looking for ways to heal emotionally and get over your breakup. When you really decide to take action and help yourself you will become unstoppable, i’m sure you know that. So what might be stopping you from starting now? I have an answer to that: patterns of negative thinking and lack of self-belief. Maybe you don’t believe that healing is possible, maybe it hasn’t even crossed your mind that you can heal yourself by your own means. Now, I’m not saying you shouldn’t look for professional help, because doing so is already taking action toward your recovery, but most of the inner work is done by you. What you get from a professional is guidance and support, the process becomes easier with a professional and gets you faster results, of course – since they are experienced in showing clients strategies to get to the their desired goal. But, the power is in you taking responsibility for your own recovery – whether it’s by researching, reading books, listening to podcasts, or by seeking professional help – you are in charge.
“And how can I start empowering myself?” I will tell you how you can: by starting to take action and change your negative thinking pattern. “And how do I do this, how do I start?” You start by changing your thoughts. You start by becoming aware of what you’re thinking. When you become aware of your thoughts that’s when you have the opportunity to choose another thought instead. You learn to choose more positive and uplifting thoughts, you start reprogramming your mind with thoughts that serve you in a more efficient way. You end the cycle of negative thinking and shift from victim mode to empowered mode, because now you are in control. Remember that your mind has been replaying the same kind of thoughts for decades, therefore it takes time to reprogram and change the paradigm.
From this place of empowerment you start having hope again, you start doing things that make you feel good, and doing things that you enjoy. You come out from that state of darkness that the painful process of divorce brought you to, and become less attached to it, you open doors for healing to start happening. You understand that even though you are going through a tough time at the moment there is still room for good things to happen, and that eventually this chapter will soon surpass and you will be feeling better than ever.
If you’re already doing your best right now, even if it seems very little, that’s good enough. As long as you’re taking small steps, doing small things for yourself day by day, that’s all that is needed to slowly recover. It’s better not to push yourself too hard, one baby step at a time is better than doing nothing. Taking one day at a time is all you need right now, it’s like taking a pill everyday to recover, your effort and commitment is what will help you find your way through. With guidance and support on your side you will be able to cross over into a place of strength, wisdom and enthusiasm. I want you to believe in happiness again, believe in yourself and in conquering what you want. You are strong and capable enough to move towards a much better life.
Yes, it takes time to heal from a break-up but do what you can to pull it through. Be patient, be understanding of yourself, do for you as you would do for a friend. Remember, it’s not the end of your life, it is the end of a chapter in your life, you have a whole range of opportunities waiting for you. Now is your chance to turn the page and write a new story. Spend time investing in your growth and development. You, and you alone, are in control of your life and in taking it to the next level. You need time to do more for yourself and learn more about yourself. Creating a better life requires effort and time to put yourself together, to find balance within, and change whatever needs to be changed. Your main focus should be on working on yourself, on finding your inner strength and on building your confidence, this is necessary to move towards better realisations.