Are you in a bad relationship? Is your marriage a living hell? Let me tell you one thing: Marriage is not your life, marriage is not your destiny – marriage is something that happens by choice. So, if you tried it and it doesn’t work – leave, break up end it!
Anything that messes with your life, anything that messes with your sanity, anything that messes with your health, is something to be avoided. Marriage is not a do or die affair, it is not your life, it is not your destiny; so, if you’re not happy in your marriage divorce is an option.
It’’s not that I encourage or support divorce, but I’m talking about those marriages that are a living hell, where you suffer abuse – where you suffer mental and physical abuse.
Even though your marriage didn’t work out, divorce gives you a second chance, it gives you the chance to make it right, after the knowledge and experience you’ve gained from your previous relationship.
I wish someone had told me this years ago: It is okay to divorce when you’re not happy; it is okay to divorce if you’re in a toxic relationship; it is okay to divorce if you are mistreated, disrespected, and cheated on. Because after all, the reason to get married is to get a better half, right? Someone to make you better – not bitter.
So, if you’re bitter and you’re unhappy in your marriage, my darling – that’s living in bondage.
What’s stopping you from ending what hurts? Is your problem people talking? People may judge you for getting divorced, so what? Stop allowing people that don’t know what you’re going through, or people that are not even wearing your shoes define your life.
There were a few people that were against my divorce before, and I would feel guilty for wanting the divorce, so I would continue in the relationship and just going through hell, continuously… until I came to a point that I made the decision, and I didn’t care about people’s opinion anymore. What I said was, “it’s my life, I have been living the relationship, I’ve been there for years, for many years… for twenty eight years, to be precise, and no one was living it for me; so now, it’s my decision – and if anyone is against my decision, you’re free to have your own opinion, you’re free to replace me, and welcome to stay in my place. It’s my life, it’s my experience, and you want to dictate my life?”
And I was confidently done! Never went back, never regretted it.
So let people talk, let them talk… it’s none of your business. Shake off the dust and move on. Learn to take care of yourself because no one will. And the only way to take care of yourself is to make those decisions that are good for you. You are the one wearing the shoes, you’re the one knowing the living hell you’re going through; so, if you know the best thing for you is to end the relationship, is to leave the marriage… Why should you wait? Why take longer?
Yes, you will go through fear, anxiety, moments of loneliness sometimes. You will have to grieve the end of your relationship, but – trust me, it’s gonna hurt less than the experience you’re going through; and in time you will be over it – and you’ll be thankful that it ended.
My dear, if you feel that you’re done – take a walk, and give yourself a second chance. Yeah? Divorce is an option, divorce gives you a second chance, divorce is an opportunity for you to know that you can get something better; something bigger; something even more beautiful. That’s what divorce is for, to free you from a life of pain.
It doesn’t matter if you want another relationship or not, the opportunity of freeing yourself from a life of misery is all you need to start living a quality of life. Your destiny is not to be married and unhappy, there’s a higher purpose for you, and you deserve to be happy, you deserve the very best.
Come on – find out a good reason to live for, and a good reason to die for, and go live your life!