Going through a divorce and seeing your family breakdown can be agonising and awfully painful. A breakup or divorce can be one of the most stressful and emotional experiences in life. Whether you want it or not – the breakup of a relationship can turn your whole life upside down and trigger all sorts of painful emotions.Â
During my divorce I felt extreme anger, I was resentful and disappointed, while sad and in shock with the end of the relationship. I was lost and confused, had restless nights, and couldn’t understand my mixed emotions. Sometimes I would assure myself that I was better off this way and other moments thinking that it had been the wrong decision. I felt delusional and would question my sanity at times. But even though I tried to deny my feelings they were there – raw and real. With this experience, I realized that even when a relationship is no longer good divorce or breakup can still be extremely painful, because it not only represents loss, but also the end of a partnership and commitments shared, and also when there are children involved you fear the impact it may cause on them. Hence the end of it represents disappointment, stress, and grief.
The end of a relationship launches you into unknown territory. Your life in general is disrupted. With all, it brings uncertainty about the future. What will life be without your partner? Will you cope on your own? Will you find someone else? Will you be able to give the best life to your children? These unknown questions can seem worse than being in an unhappy relationship, but it is important to remind yourself that you can and will get through this difficult experience and move on with a renewed sense of hope and optimism.
Despite the pain of breaking up, you can see it as a golden opportunity for you to redesign your life the way you choose to. I know it may seem challenging at first and so to help you I have created a system that will enable you to manage and cope with your own divorce, so that you may grab back control and move confidently into the new chapter of your life.