Healing from a breakup takes time. There is no timeline to recover from a divorce, each person goes through the process of grieving in their own terms. How long it takes to recover may depend on a number of factors: how long you were together, how good the relationship was and how attached you were to your spouse; whether the divorce was a surprise to you or not; whether you have children together, whether you or your spouse are involved in a new relationship; your level of confidence and your perspective of things also counts.
As we know, divorce is stressful and painful, and going through the process triggers all sorts of unsettling, uncomfortable and frightening emotions, adding up to loneliness and depression. There is frequently sadness and grief at the thought of ending a relationship, unknowingly, you are faced with traumatic emotions which at times can feel unbearable.
The experience may be different for everyone, depending on one’s personal situation like I said, but you cannot avoid the roller coaster of emotions and the great deal of new practical challenges as you separate your two lives. For some, the breakup may be amicable, for others the relationship may have weakened over the years, but the sense of loss and the finality of it is always overwhelming. Anyhow, it is normal to feel this whole range of negative emotions.
Grieving is a unique process, no one goes through it in the exact same way, and as each case is one case it is not possible to say the exact timeline to recover, however, it is up to each person to work on healing and do everything to rise again. Yes, it takes time to recover, but you have to do what you can to pull it through.
Be patient, be understanding of yourself, do for you as you would do for a friend. You can’t rush your recovery, you have to allow it to happen gradually. You have to take care of your emotional wound like you take care of a physical one, and allow time for the healing to happen.
Just by being here and reading this article shows that you are already in the process of healing because you are already looking to recover. This is the first step, the intention and the desire to heal. You are already taking responsibility for your recovery. I’m sure you’re looking to move on from the anguish and arrive at a higher place. Like I have mentioned, healing from divorce takes time, grieving is a unique process; no one does it in the same way, and there is no timeline to recover, but it is up to you do what you can to heal and overcome. Look for help if you need, don’t go through the painful process on your own, find a support group, a coach, a therapist. Looking for help is a way of helping yourself. If you can do it on your own great, but if you’re feeling desperate and not being able to cope with those strong emotions, getting support should be one thing to consider. This is you stepping up for yourself and doing what you can to recover.
If you’re already doing your best, that is good enough. As long as you’re taking small actions, doing small things for yourself every day, that’s all that is needed to slowly recover. Taking one day at a time. Your effort and commitment is what will help you find your way through. With guidance and support on your side you will be able to cross over into a place of strength, confidence and enthusiasm. I want you to believe in happiness again, believe in yourself and in conquering what you want. You are strong and capable enough to move towards a much better life.
Do everything to rise again. I know it’s always easier said than done, but there’s always a good side to every bad event. The breakup can be a blessing in disguise. Your reward for letting go is gaining freedom from your past, and the chance to create a new future. You are free and full of life, don’t let one bump along the road keep you from living your life to the fullest. Let your healing start now!
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