Every relationship is a challenge, you are two human beings with many differences: different personalities, different upbringings, different preferences and opinions, different ways of thinking in many aspects, so you won’t always be in agreement, but this doesn’t mean that you should be in conflict with each other either. There are ways of keeping the peace and being in harmony with each other. There are important factors that count in order to build a long lasting and happy relationship. It takes effort to protect, nurture, and grow a marriage. It takes commitment and responsibility to maintain a healthy relationship.
The most important factors are listed bellow:
1) Good communication is extremely important to infuse proximity between the two of you;
2) Be committed to the relationship, don’t take it for granted, nourish it instead;
3) Decide ahead of time that divorce is not an option. Making the commitment will help you focus on making your relationship stronger rather than thinking about what life might be like outside your marriage.
4) Honour your partner, remember your partner’s best qualities, remind yourself of the wonderful person you married. It was for those reasons that you fell in love.
5) Respect each other, with honesty and loyalty.
6) Compliment and appreciate each other, keep the habit of doing so.
7) Share financial expectations. Agreeing about how your money will be handled is a critical component for a successful marriage.
8) Give each other space and freedom. You need balance in a marriage, too much closeness can feel suffocating, and too little can be negligence, or inattentiveness. The important thing here is to spend quality time together while also allowing each other the space to do whatever one feels like doing.
9) Prioritise your wellness, self-care is important for both you and your partner, this keeps you confident around each other.
10) Have date nights; It is important to keep the romantic flame going, even after years of relationship. Your relationship matters, so nourish it with surprises and special moments together; devote the time and effort just as you would when you were dating.
11) Forgive quickly; remember that you are two individual beings with differences, sometimes you might get into disagreements and become upset with each other, it is important to forgive and let go quickly by respecting each other’s ways and valuing the differences.
12) Take responsibility for mistakes, apologise if you have done something wrong.
13) Don’t Try to Control Your Partner; In healthy marriages, both partners have mutual respect for one another and don’t demand their own way. Your partner is an adult and needs room and freedom to be the person he or she is, the same way you need.
Find Help Before Deciding on Divorce
If you’re still having challenges in your marriage and you fear the possibility of divorce, consider counselling or couples therapy. Navigating issues in a marriage can be challenging. To persevere in the relationship and prevent divorce, both partners need to commit in doing the work and putting in the time and effort to improve the relationship.
While the goal is to save the relationship, you will ultimately have to decide if staying together is the right choice for both of you or not. Not all differences or difficulties can be resolved. You are different people, and your values, beliefs, habits, and personality may not always be in alignment. Communication goes a long way toward helping you understand each other and address concerns, but some things are deeply rooted and may not change significantly. It is important to figure out for yourself what you can accept, or when a relationship is no longer healthy for you.
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