The end of a relationship is not the end of your life, it can actually be an amazing opportunity to start living the life you want instead of living one you don’t want. Keeping in mind that you now have the chance to live your life as you wish can be a good motive to start reinventing a new you. You need change in order to challenge yourself and bring excitement back into your life. Reinventing yourself is a means to rediscover fulfillment, purpose, and meaning.
So, where do you go from here?
Figure out who you want to become and the life you want to live. What habits would you like to overcome and which new ones would you like to implement in your life? What is your new life going to look like, and what actions can you take towards that goal?
Reinvention is what will allow you to explore new parts of yourself. Probably going through the hardship of divorce left you feeling a wreck and you feel unhappy with the person you’ve become. Now is the time to reinvent yourself into the best version of you. You’re looking to change aspects probably physically, mentally and emotionally. Â In reality, the real goal is to uncover your true self that has been hiding in the layers of emotional pain.
Becoming a new you won’t happen overnight, it will require your desire to change, your determination and commitment. Find out who you want to become and start from there. Soon you will notice yourself changing and becoming the person you envision.Â
While changing yourself completely could be challenging at times, it is still possible if you have the desire to change and willing to put in the effort.
The following suggestions may help you align to your goals and discover the areas in your life you want to reinvent:
Ask Yourself, Who You Want to Become
The first step on how to reinvent yourself begins with the question, “Who do I want to become?” How does an amazing person look like to you?
It’s a good idea to visualize what you want to change about yourself inside and out. Once, you have a vision it will be a great motivator and constant reminder of why you want to change.
Focus On Your Health
Fitness and eating habits is a must to becoming a better you. Working out consistently allows you to de-stress, look and feel better overall. Drinking plenty of water and making healthier choices in your diet will provide you with much more energy to achieve your goals. This will greatly aid you in your journey of becoming your new self.
Be Honest With Yourself
Identify and recognise where you need to change. Changing requires honesty with yourself, you have to call yourself out on your habits and choices. Recognize your bad habits and take responsibility for them – only then, can you truly change.
Journal and Meditate
Keep a journal of how you feel so that you can later compare your transformation.
Meditate to be in tune with yourself. Sitting in silence for a few minutes, or walking in nature can bring some mental clarity to your life and impact your overall well-being.
Declutter Your Life
Reinventing yourself means clearing out anything that doesn’t align with your new self. You may want to look at toxic people that don’t contribute to your well-being, or maybe it isn’t about negative people but old stuff that you no longer use.
Simplify your life by getting rid of everything that drains your energy. What you want now is to regain your power and be in control of everything that has to do with you and your new life.
Clear Up Emotional Baggage
After getting rid of physical clutter it’s time to deal with emotional baggage. It is important to understand your emotions in order to properly heal and move on with your life. Your healing journey only starts the moment you face and deal with your emotions. You need to feel, deal, in order to heal. You can’t heal unless you deal with it, you can’t deal with it unless you know what you’re feeling. There’s no way around.
Engage On Things You Enjoy
Engage on things that promote your well-being, things that make you feel good, anything that improves your state of mind is what you need. At this time all you want is to come out of the depressive state and feel good, and the best way is to do the things you love and be with the people you love.
Don’t Be Afraid to Express Yourself
Reinventing yourself is about expression. Now is the time to manifest what and who you want to become. Do what the new you would do. Dress like the new you would, express yourself with confidence and pride. Become your best self.
Find a Coach/Mentor
Hiring a coach will allow you to get some outside perspective on this journey. You will certainly see progress fairly quickly, even though you may face setbacks from time to time. There will be days you will need some guidance and support, we as humans like to sink back into what is comfortable, this is okay, but a coach will always stand by you and hold you accountable to achieve your goals.
Ultimately, reinventing yourself is more than putting on new clothes or changing your hair style, it starts from the inside out and the understanding of who you are and who you want to be. You embrace the best elements of yourself from your past along with the idea of becoming your best future self. Nothing can stop you from becoming the person you’ve always wanted to be.